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Birthday wishes
for your wife.

Name one thing she did this year, say it changed something, and wish her a happy birthday. That is the card she keeps.

These birthday wishes for your wife are sorted by who is writing: you, her friends, her family, and a few short ones for anyone.

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Everyone's words in one card.

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Two-colour printed lettering. Happy birthday. Yes, there's cake. No, you don't have to speak.

I still look for you in a room. Happy birthday.

From Ellen

Nobody makes us laugh like you do. Happy birthday, and we are so glad you exist.

From Ben

Happy birthday. Dinner is at ours, and your only job is to show up.

From Nadia

Pick a design

  • A mug. Happy birthday to the one who knows how everyone takes their tea.
  • A party with balloons. Hold a balloon. Hold a friend. Happy birthday.
  • A sun. Happy birthday. Hope the sun comes out.
  • A cake. Happy birthday. Second slice is allowed. Third is between you and the fridge.
  • A wrapped present. Happy birthday. It's a big one. Well, medium.
  • A cupcake and the words one, two, twenty, forty. Happy birthday. We counted the candles. We ran out.
  • A birthday present. Happy birthday. Open it before the tea cools.
  • Marker lettering with a highlighter stroke. Happy birthday. You still can't fold a fitted sheet and that's fine.
  • A party hat. Happy birthday. The hat is not optional.
  • Pop birthday card. Happy birthday.

The question

Each writer gets a question.

One at a time, about Sam. They answer in their own words, or write without one.

Who they are to you
  1. Something Sam did this year that you still think about.
  2. Words of Sam's that you have caught yourself using.
  3. A day Sam made better just by turning up.
  4. Something Sam taught you without meaning to.
  5. A small thing about Sam that nobody else would notice.
  6. The story about Sam you tell most.
  1. The moment you knew you had a proper friend in Sam.
  2. Something Sam did that only a friend would.
  3. A thing you still laugh about together.
  4. The time Sam turned up when it mattered.
  5. Something Sam knew about you before you said it.
  1. Something Sam did for the family that went unsaid.
  2. A habit of Sam's that you have caught yourself copying.
  3. A memory of Sam from when you were younger.
  4. Something Sam put up with from you.
  5. Something Sam taught you, mostly by example.
  1. A small thing Sam did that you noticed and never mentioned.
  2. The moment you knew.
  3. Something Sam did this year that made things easier for you.
  4. A thing about Sam you would not change.
  5. Something Sam carried that was yours to carry.
  1. The thing you go to Sam for.
  2. Something you picked up from working beside Sam.
  3. A bad day at work that Sam turned round.
  4. Something a new starter should be told about Sam.
  5. Something Sam did that made the job feel worth doing.

Or write without one.

Birthday messages for your wife

Pick one, put the real detail in it, and sign.

From a husband

  • You made this year better than the one before it, and the one before that was already good. Happy birthday.

  • I still look for you in a room. Happy birthday.

  • Thank you for the thousand small things you do that I notice and do not say enough. Today I am saying it.

  • Happy birthday to the person who knows exactly what I mean before I finish the sentence.

  • Twelve years and I would pick you again on a Tuesday morning in November. Happy birthday.

From her friends

  • Happy birthday. You deserve a day that is entirely about you, and we are here to make sure it is.

  • Nobody makes us laugh like you do. Happy birthday, and we are so glad you exist.

  • We have watched you handle a hard year with more grace than most people manage in a good one. Happy birthday.

  • Happy birthday. The table is booked, the dress code is whatever you want, and the night ends when you say.

  • To our favourite person: happy birthday. The group chat has not been the same since you joined it.

From her family

  • Happy birthday. You brought so much into this family and we do not say that often enough.

  • We are so proud of the person you are. Happy birthday, with all our love.

  • Happy birthday. Dinner is at ours, and your only job is to show up.

  • To our daughter-in-law: happy birthday. We got lucky when he brought you home.

Short

  • Happy birthday. Today is yours.

  • Happy birthday. You deserve all of it.

  • Many happy returns. We love you.

  • Happy birthday. Make it a good one.

  • Happy birthday, love. Lucky me.

  • Happy birthday. Still the best decision I ever made.

What not to write

Do not write about her age as a number to survive. She knows how old she is, and a joke she did not ask for lands badly in ink.

Do not fill the card with what she does for everyone else. Her birthday is the one day the card is about her, not her role.

Do not write something vague that could go to anyone. The card she keeps is the one that could only have been written for her.

Do not end with a list of wishes. Pick the one thing you mean most and say that.

One card from everyone who loves her

Her friends, her family, the people from her old job. One link, and it opens on the morning.

  1. 01

    Set her birthday.

    The card opens that morning. Nobody sees it before she does.

  2. 02

    Send the link.

    Everyone she loves gets one link. They write once, in their own words, and sign their name.

  3. 03

    She reads it on her phone.

    Every message, every name. She can keep it and go back to it whenever she wants.

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Questions

What do you write in a wife's birthday card?

Name one thing she did or one way she changed your life this year. A message that could only be about her is worth more than a hundred warm words that could go to anyone.

What do her friends write in a group birthday card?

Something specific and something funny if they can manage both. The best group cards have one message that makes her laugh and one that makes her feel seen.

How do you organise a group birthday card for your wife?

Set the date on tbf, send the link to everyone you want to sign, and it opens for her on the morning of her birthday. No chasing, no envelope.

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