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Muslim condolence message.
What to write.
Name the person they lost, say Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un if you share the faith, and offer something real. Nothing more is needed.
The condolence messages are sorted by how close you are and whether you share the faith.
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Everyone's words in one card.
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May Allah ease your grief and surround you with those who love you.
I am sorry. There are no words. I am just here.
Our hearts are with you. We loved them too.
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The question
Each writer gets a question.
One at a time, about Sam. They answer in their own words, or write without one.
- A memory you would like Sam to have.
- Something you saw between them that you will not forget.
- A thing you learned from the person who has died.
- Something kind you saw Sam do for them.
- What you will remember them for.
- A plain offer of help you mean to keep.
- The moment you knew you had a proper friend in Sam.
- Something Sam did that only a friend would.
- A thing you still laugh about together.
- The time Sam turned up when it mattered.
- Something Sam knew about you before you said it.
- Something Sam did for the family that went unsaid.
- A habit of Sam's that you have caught yourself copying.
- A memory of Sam from when you were younger.
- Something Sam put up with from you.
- Something Sam taught you, mostly by example.
- A small thing Sam did that you noticed and never mentioned.
- The moment you knew.
- Something Sam did this year that made things easier for you.
- A thing about Sam you would not change.
- Something Sam carried that was yours to carry.
- The thing you go to Sam for.
- Something you picked up from working beside Sam.
- A bad day at work that Sam turned round.
- Something a new starter should be told about Sam.
- Something Sam did that made the job feel worth doing.
Or write without one.
Muslim condolence messages
Pick your group, name the person they lost, and sign.
Sharing the faith
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. May Allah grant them Jannah and give your family patience.
May Allah have mercy on their soul and grant you and your family sabr.
They returned to Allah. May He grant them the highest place in Jannah.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. Thinking of you and your family at this time.
May Allah ease your grief and surround you with those who love you.
From a close friend
I am so sorry about your father. I am here whenever you need me, for anything at all.
Thinking of you every day. Please let me know how I can help.
I am so sorry for your loss. Say the word and I will come.
Your mother was a wonderful woman. I will not forget her kindness.
I am sorry. There are no words. I am just here.
From family
We grieve with you. You are not alone in this.
Our hearts are with you. We loved them too.
We are thinking of you all and sending you our love.
Please lean on us. That is what family is for.
From someone who did not share the faith
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your whole family.
I did not know them well, but I know how much they meant to you. I am sorry.
Thinking of you. Please do not hesitate to ask if there is anything I can do.
I am so sorry. I hope you feel surrounded by love right now.
Wishing you comfort and peace in the days ahead.
Short
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. So sorry for your loss.
Thinking of you. I am so sorry.
My condolences to you and your family.
So sorry. Here if you need me.
With you in your grief.
What to leave out
Do not question Allah's will or explain the loss theologically. Even if you share the faith, the bereaved do not need a lesson in qadar. Say you are sorry and stop.
In Islam, the azza can last three days and the house fills with people. Do not write that you will visit without asking first. A card is welcome; an unannounced guest is not.
Do not reach for Jannah or Allah's mercy in your message unless you are sure the family practises. A phrase offered outside someone's faith can land as distance rather than comfort.
Do not mix Islamic phrases in carelessly if you do not know them. A plain, warm message from a non-Muslim is far better than a phrase used wrongly.
One card from everyone
In grief, knowing how many people cared makes a difference. One link goes round, and the family reads every name.
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Start the card today.
There is no ideal date. Send it as soon as you hear.
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Share one link.
Each person writes once, from a browser. No account needed.
- 03
The family reads it together.
All the messages, each with a name. They keep it.
Questions
What do you say in a Muslim condolence message?
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un is the traditional phrase, meaning we belong to Allah and to Him we return. Add the name of the person lost and an offer of support.
Can a non-Muslim write a Muslim condolence message?
Yes. Name the person they lost, say you are sorry, and offer something real. You do not need to use Arabic phrases to write a kind message.
Is it appropriate to send a group card for a Muslim bereavement?
During azza, the mourning period, the family receives many visitors. A card that arrives signed by twenty people says more than twenty separate messages sent and forgotten.
Somebody has a day coming up.
Everyone's words in one card.