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Wedding thank you card.
What to write.

Name them, mention the gift or what they did, and say it meant something. That is a thank you card done.

The messages are sorted by who you are thanking. Pick the group, make one detail true, and sign both your names.

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Everyone's words in one card.

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Midcentury wedding card. Congratulations.

You held everything together when we could not. We will not forget that.

From Priya

The day would have been smaller without you in it. Thank you.

From Kofi

We have opened everything now. Yours was opened first. Thank you.

From Rosa

Pick a design

  • Two rings. Congratulations on your wedding.
  • A bunch of flowers. Congratulations. You both looked so happy.
  • Marker lettering with a highlighter stroke. You're engaged. Show us the ring. Again.
  • Two rings. Here's to the two of you.
  • Botanical wedding card. Congratulations.
  • Marker lettering with a highlighter stroke. Congratulations. You'll never win an argument about the thermostat again.
  • Two glasses. Cheers to the two of you.
  • A heart. Married. Congratulations, you two.
  • The words seating plan one, seating plan two, seating plan forty. Congratulations on the wedding. Worth it.
  • Lino-cut lettering in a printed band. Happy anniversary. Still the best decision you both made.

The question

Each writer gets a question.

One at a time, about Sam. They answer in their own words, or write without one.

Who they are to you
  1. The moment you knew this was the real thing.
  2. Something you noticed change in Sam for the better.
  3. A small thing you have seen them do for each other.
  4. The story about Sam you would tell at the table.
  5. Something you learned about being with somebody from watching Sam.
  6. Something you hope never changes about Sam.
  1. The moment you knew you had a proper friend in Sam.
  2. Something Sam did that only a friend would.
  3. A thing you still laugh about together.
  4. The time Sam turned up when it mattered.
  5. Something Sam knew about you before you said it.
  1. Something Sam did for the family that went unsaid.
  2. A habit of Sam's that you have caught yourself copying.
  3. A memory of Sam from when you were younger.
  4. Something Sam put up with from you.
  5. Something Sam taught you, mostly by example.
  1. A small thing Sam did that you noticed and never mentioned.
  2. The moment you knew.
  3. Something Sam did this year that made things easier for you.
  4. A thing about Sam you would not change.
  5. Something Sam carried that was yours to carry.
  1. The thing you go to Sam for.
  2. Something you picked up from working beside Sam.
  3. A bad day at work that Sam turned round.
  4. Something a new starter should be told about Sam.
  5. Something Sam did that made the job feel worth doing.

Or write without one.

Wedding thank you card messages

Pick one, change the detail that makes it theirs, and sign from both of you.

For family who helped make it happen

  • Thank you for everything before the day, on the day, and after. We could not have done it without you.

  • The flowers, the lists, the three hundred phone calls. We saw all of it. Thank you.

  • You gave us more than a gift. You gave us a wedding. Thank you, from both of us.

  • We know how much went into this. Thank you does not cover it, but here it is anyway.

  • You held everything together when we could not. We will not forget that.

For close friends who were there

  • Having you there made it. Thank you for the speech, the dancing, and the taxi home.

  • You cried before we did. Thank you for every moment of that day.

  • We have looked at the photos and you are in most of them. That tells you everything. Thank you.

  • Thank you for being exactly who you are and for being there. It mattered.

  • The day would have been smaller without you in it. Thank you.

For guests who gave a gift

  • Thank you for the gift and for travelling to be with us. Both meant a great deal.

  • We have opened everything now. Yours was opened first. Thank you.

  • The gift was generous and we will think of you every time we use it.

  • Thank you. We are putting it to use already, which is the best thing we can say.

For someone who travelled far

  • You came a long way to stand in a field with us. We are still touched by that. Thank you.

  • The distance you covered was not lost on us. Thank you.

  • We know what it took to get there. Thank you for doing it anyway.

  • Thank you for coming. The distance made it mean more, not less.

Short

  • Thank you. Having you there was the gift.

  • Thank you for coming and for the lovely gift.

  • We are so glad you were there. Thank you.

  • Thank you. It was a perfect day, and you were part of it.

What to leave out

Do not write one generic message and send it to everyone. Guests notice. One changed detail, a name or a specific gift, is the difference between a card that lands and one that gets put in a drawer.

Do not mention the amount. If it was cash, say what you plan to do with it.

Do not apologise for how long the cards took. Late is fine. A thank you card that arrives six weeks after the wedding still beats silence, and most people understand how a honeymoon works.

Do not end with a promise to catch up soon if you do not mean it. A warm thank you and your names is enough.

One card from both of you

Share a link, both sign, and it lands with the person you want to thank.

  1. 01

    Set the date.

    Choose when the card opens. The morning after the honeymoon works well.

  2. 02

    Both of you sign it.

    One link, two names. Each of you writes your own message if you want, or you write together.

  3. 03

    They read it when it opens.

    Every word signed with your names. They keep it.

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Questions

How long should a wedding thank you card message be?

Two or three sentences is plenty. Name the person, mention the gift or what they did, and sign both names.

When should you send wedding thank you cards?

Two months is the usual guide. Send one as soon as you can, but a late card is still better than none.

Do you have to write something different for every card?

Change at least one detail for each person: the gift, what they did on the day, how far they came. One real detail beats a paragraph that could be for anyone.

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